Parenting is one such serious obligation. It is true that teenagers learned from their environment, from what they see and hear. It is so difficult to choose or screened the indirect learning they acquired from other people, media, and society as a whole. But as parents, we can do something to correct them and make them learn what is right to do and what is not permitted to be practiced.
Some parents fear to break their close relationship with their children, leading them to the point of spoiling them and giving in to all they want. But the love for our children cannot be fulfilled by any amount of money or material thing. It is the way we mould them to become a good person that manifests how much we love our kids.
Some teenagers become so unruly and disrespectful because they are used to do such things. That no one, not even their own parents calls their attention and corrects them for whatever wrongdoings they did. Parents should know when to say "enough is enough". But how can they do it without ruining their family closeness? Here are some tips for dealing disrespect teenagers:
* SUPERIORITY COUNTS.
Bear in mind that parents are the masters of the house. Make your teenage kid understands that you are superior to him and he is inferior to you. That you are the one making the rules inside your house and not him. That he is given freedom to decide for himself but not to the point of disobeying the rules you imposed.
* SET BOUNDARIES.
Have clear boundaries as to what they are allowed to do and what is not permitted. But make sure not to give exemptions when someone failed to follow. Set justifiable boundaries that is not so strong and not so weak. Only enough to let your teenage kid knows his limitations and what is expected of him.
* HAVE A CONVERSATION.
There is no such good thing as having a nice conversation with your child. Have time to listen to his stories for this is the only way you can enter his teenage world. Take time to know what bothers him, what makes him happy or what inspires him. Knowing your kids feeling is the best way to understand him and his actions.
*BE A ROLE MODEL.
Parents are always seen as role model of our children. Whatever we do, we say and we decide counts a lot for our kids so it is a must for us to be good examples. Learn to respect our kids so they will also learn to respect us. But make sure to have consistency so that our kids won't find a loophole that can be used as an excuse to justify their mistakes.
* CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS.
We love our kids more than anyone else but sometimes, it is a must that parents should learn to control emotions particularly when you are imposing discipline to your kids. As much as possible, never show your weak points, for teenage kids might learn to use it as a tool for emotionally black mailing parents.
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Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Effective ways of showing love and care to your child
Children are God's gift to us and giving them a better future is our gift to God. Almost all parents are after their children's happiness and safety because they love and care for them genuinely and unconditionally.
There are parents who are very vocal in expressing their love and affection. Some shows it through gifts and other material things that can obviously bring joy and fun to their children. But some may not be as materialistic and vocally expressive, but in their own way can sincerely convey their love and care to their kids.
Here are some best ways on how to show love and care to your children:
* Quality time.
One great manifestation of being good parents is to be with their children particularly the mother. For all children requires quality time from parents. As they grow, they should grow with their parents' full guidance and support and not of their babysitter or grandmother because parents know what is best for their children.
* Give them protection.
Protecting your children from sickness, injuries or anything that can harm them is one way of showing you care for them. There are parents who tight-guard their children and it is not because they don't trust them but because they love and care for them a lot. Those parents were so paranoid on thinking that something bad might happen to their kids.
* Help in the improvement of the child.
Your children needs booster to make them do things better. Parents are children's great supporters that should help them discover and develop their skills and talents. Facilitating your child's learning programs is one way of showing your love.
* Appreciate their accomplishments.
Another means of showing your love and care to your children is by simply being their biggest fan. Appreciation from parents such as nice comments for their work art or just simple pat on his shoulder is considered a big deal for kids. It will motivate them to be more productive and always be at their best.
* Understanding, care and respect.
Even at younger age, children deserve better understanding, sincere care and respect from parents. For this is one way of showing them how important they are. In every mistake they committed, parents must explained thoroughly the consequences made from that mistake in order for children to learn how to do it right next time. Nagging and punishments are not really advisable, because children have the ability to know right and wrong even without hurting or insulting them.
* Teach those good values and discipline.
This is one best way how parents can show their love and care for their children. Teaching your kids good values and discipline will mould them to be good person whom they can bring until they grew up and transfer it to their own children.
There are parents who are very vocal in expressing their love and affection. Some shows it through gifts and other material things that can obviously bring joy and fun to their children. But some may not be as materialistic and vocally expressive, but in their own way can sincerely convey their love and care to their kids.
Here are some best ways on how to show love and care to your children:
* Quality time.
One great manifestation of being good parents is to be with their children particularly the mother. For all children requires quality time from parents. As they grow, they should grow with their parents' full guidance and support and not of their babysitter or grandmother because parents know what is best for their children.
* Give them protection.
Protecting your children from sickness, injuries or anything that can harm them is one way of showing you care for them. There are parents who tight-guard their children and it is not because they don't trust them but because they love and care for them a lot. Those parents were so paranoid on thinking that something bad might happen to their kids.
* Help in the improvement of the child.
Your children needs booster to make them do things better. Parents are children's great supporters that should help them discover and develop their skills and talents. Facilitating your child's learning programs is one way of showing your love.
* Appreciate their accomplishments.
Another means of showing your love and care to your children is by simply being their biggest fan. Appreciation from parents such as nice comments for their work art or just simple pat on his shoulder is considered a big deal for kids. It will motivate them to be more productive and always be at their best.
* Understanding, care and respect.
Even at younger age, children deserve better understanding, sincere care and respect from parents. For this is one way of showing them how important they are. In every mistake they committed, parents must explained thoroughly the consequences made from that mistake in order for children to learn how to do it right next time. Nagging and punishments are not really advisable, because children have the ability to know right and wrong even without hurting or insulting them.
* Teach those good values and discipline.
This is one best way how parents can show their love and care for their children. Teaching your kids good values and discipline will mould them to be good person whom they can bring until they grew up and transfer it to their own children.
Parenting: Helping your teens heal a broken heart
As parents, it is difficult for us to see our children experienced pain particularly pains brought by broken heart. Although we knew that this kind of pain is normal experiences that will help him/her grow maturely, we still continuously making ways on how to protect them from such difficult situation. Here are some tips on how to help your teens heal a broken heart.
* Keep him company.
Teenage life is the most difficult life stages of a person. This is the time in which your teen needs your valuable time. Having a broken heart will make a person feel inferior and insecure. Keeping him company always will eliminate the possible feeling of being alone and outcast. He will be assured of having someone on his side ready to listen to all his heartaches.
* Invite him to engage on enjoyable activities.
Asking your teen to do some activities like sports, going to gym, mountain climbing, scrap booking, photography, gardening and other enjoyable tricks will make his time occupied. And being busy will keep him away from reminiscing sad moments of his break up. It will also help him enhance his skills and discover new opportunities.
* Talk to him positively.
Give him encouraging words that will make him see the bright side of life. Let him know that what he is experiencing is just a part of growing up and it will soon be vanished. Try to give him insights that will make him see other opportunities that are more favorable.
* Share with him your experiences.
Sometimes sharing our very own experiences will help because teens mostly look up to his parents and believe to whatever words they say. Sharing your own victory of recovering from heartbreak will motivate him to do better.
* Show your sympathy.
Make him know that you fully understand what he is undergoing. It is good to sympathize with his feelings but avoid making him feel some self pity. Help him by eliminating all possible things that can make him remember his painful memories like pictures of his ex, love songs and movies. Instead, try to make your home more lively and enjoyable place to live in.
* Encourage him to develop himself.
Give him advices that will emphasize more on his good points. Encourage him to improve himself physically, mentally and emotionally for it can help him boost his self confidence.
* Teach him how to pray.
Make your teen realize that what he is experiencing is just one of those trials from God. That he should learn to always ask guidance from Him for He is the only means of his strength and courage that will help him make his life move on.
* Keep him company.
Teenage life is the most difficult life stages of a person. This is the time in which your teen needs your valuable time. Having a broken heart will make a person feel inferior and insecure. Keeping him company always will eliminate the possible feeling of being alone and outcast. He will be assured of having someone on his side ready to listen to all his heartaches.
* Invite him to engage on enjoyable activities.
Asking your teen to do some activities like sports, going to gym, mountain climbing, scrap booking, photography, gardening and other enjoyable tricks will make his time occupied. And being busy will keep him away from reminiscing sad moments of his break up. It will also help him enhance his skills and discover new opportunities.
* Talk to him positively.
Give him encouraging words that will make him see the bright side of life. Let him know that what he is experiencing is just a part of growing up and it will soon be vanished. Try to give him insights that will make him see other opportunities that are more favorable.
* Share with him your experiences.
Sometimes sharing our very own experiences will help because teens mostly look up to his parents and believe to whatever words they say. Sharing your own victory of recovering from heartbreak will motivate him to do better.
* Show your sympathy.
Make him know that you fully understand what he is undergoing. It is good to sympathize with his feelings but avoid making him feel some self pity. Help him by eliminating all possible things that can make him remember his painful memories like pictures of his ex, love songs and movies. Instead, try to make your home more lively and enjoyable place to live in.
* Encourage him to develop himself.
Give him advices that will emphasize more on his good points. Encourage him to improve himself physically, mentally and emotionally for it can help him boost his self confidence.
* Teach him how to pray.
Make your teen realize that what he is experiencing is just one of those trials from God. That he should learn to always ask guidance from Him for He is the only means of his strength and courage that will help him make his life move on.
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