Parenting is one such serious obligation. It is true that teenagers learned from their environment, from what they see and hear. It is so difficult to choose or screened the indirect learning they acquired from other people, media, and society as a whole. But as parents, we can do something to correct them and make them learn what is right to do and what is not permitted to be practiced.
Some parents fear to break their close relationship with their children, leading them to the point of spoiling them and giving in to all they want. But the love for our children cannot be fulfilled by any amount of money or material thing. It is the way we mould them to become a good person that manifests how much we love our kids.
Some teenagers become so unruly and disrespectful because they are used to do such things. That no one, not even their own parents calls their attention and corrects them for whatever wrongdoings they did. Parents should know when to say "enough is enough". But how can they do it without ruining their family closeness? Here are some tips for dealing disrespect teenagers:
* SUPERIORITY COUNTS.
Bear in mind that parents are the masters of the house. Make your teenage kid understands that you are superior to him and he is inferior to you. That you are the one making the rules inside your house and not him. That he is given freedom to decide for himself but not to the point of disobeying the rules you imposed.
* SET BOUNDARIES.
Have clear boundaries as to what they are allowed to do and what is not permitted. But make sure not to give exemptions when someone failed to follow. Set justifiable boundaries that is not so strong and not so weak. Only enough to let your teenage kid knows his limitations and what is expected of him.
* HAVE A CONVERSATION.
There is no such good thing as having a nice conversation with your child. Have time to listen to his stories for this is the only way you can enter his teenage world. Take time to know what bothers him, what makes him happy or what inspires him. Knowing your kids feeling is the best way to understand him and his actions.
*BE A ROLE MODEL.
Parents are always seen as role model of our children. Whatever we do, we say and we decide counts a lot for our kids so it is a must for us to be good examples. Learn to respect our kids so they will also learn to respect us. But make sure to have consistency so that our kids won't find a loophole that can be used as an excuse to justify their mistakes.
* CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS.
We love our kids more than anyone else but sometimes, it is a must that parents should learn to control emotions particularly when you are imposing discipline to your kids. As much as possible, never show your weak points, for teenage kids might learn to use it as a tool for emotionally black mailing parents.
Friday, February 20, 2009
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Effective ways of showing love and care to your child
Children are God's gift to us and giving them a better future is our gift to God. Almost all parents are after their children's happiness and safety because they love and care for them genuinely and unconditionally.
There are parents who are very vocal in expressing their love and affection. Some shows it through gifts and other material things that can obviously bring joy and fun to their children. But some may not be as materialistic and vocally expressive, but in their own way can sincerely convey their love and care to their kids.
Here are some best ways on how to show love and care to your children:
* Quality time.
One great manifestation of being good parents is to be with their children particularly the mother. For all children requires quality time from parents. As they grow, they should grow with their parents' full guidance and support and not of their babysitter or grandmother because parents know what is best for their children.
* Give them protection.
Protecting your children from sickness, injuries or anything that can harm them is one way of showing you care for them. There are parents who tight-guard their children and it is not because they don't trust them but because they love and care for them a lot. Those parents were so paranoid on thinking that something bad might happen to their kids.
* Help in the improvement of the child.
Your children needs booster to make them do things better. Parents are children's great supporters that should help them discover and develop their skills and talents. Facilitating your child's learning programs is one way of showing your love.
* Appreciate their accomplishments.
Another means of showing your love and care to your children is by simply being their biggest fan. Appreciation from parents such as nice comments for their work art or just simple pat on his shoulder is considered a big deal for kids. It will motivate them to be more productive and always be at their best.
* Understanding, care and respect.
Even at younger age, children deserve better understanding, sincere care and respect from parents. For this is one way of showing them how important they are. In every mistake they committed, parents must explained thoroughly the consequences made from that mistake in order for children to learn how to do it right next time. Nagging and punishments are not really advisable, because children have the ability to know right and wrong even without hurting or insulting them.
* Teach those good values and discipline.
This is one best way how parents can show their love and care for their children. Teaching your kids good values and discipline will mould them to be good person whom they can bring until they grew up and transfer it to their own children.
There are parents who are very vocal in expressing their love and affection. Some shows it through gifts and other material things that can obviously bring joy and fun to their children. But some may not be as materialistic and vocally expressive, but in their own way can sincerely convey their love and care to their kids.
Here are some best ways on how to show love and care to your children:
* Quality time.
One great manifestation of being good parents is to be with their children particularly the mother. For all children requires quality time from parents. As they grow, they should grow with their parents' full guidance and support and not of their babysitter or grandmother because parents know what is best for their children.
* Give them protection.
Protecting your children from sickness, injuries or anything that can harm them is one way of showing you care for them. There are parents who tight-guard their children and it is not because they don't trust them but because they love and care for them a lot. Those parents were so paranoid on thinking that something bad might happen to their kids.
* Help in the improvement of the child.
Your children needs booster to make them do things better. Parents are children's great supporters that should help them discover and develop their skills and talents. Facilitating your child's learning programs is one way of showing your love.
* Appreciate their accomplishments.
Another means of showing your love and care to your children is by simply being their biggest fan. Appreciation from parents such as nice comments for their work art or just simple pat on his shoulder is considered a big deal for kids. It will motivate them to be more productive and always be at their best.
* Understanding, care and respect.
Even at younger age, children deserve better understanding, sincere care and respect from parents. For this is one way of showing them how important they are. In every mistake they committed, parents must explained thoroughly the consequences made from that mistake in order for children to learn how to do it right next time. Nagging and punishments are not really advisable, because children have the ability to know right and wrong even without hurting or insulting them.
* Teach those good values and discipline.
This is one best way how parents can show their love and care for their children. Teaching your kids good values and discipline will mould them to be good person whom they can bring until they grew up and transfer it to their own children.
Parenting: Helping your teens heal a broken heart
As parents, it is difficult for us to see our children experienced pain particularly pains brought by broken heart. Although we knew that this kind of pain is normal experiences that will help him/her grow maturely, we still continuously making ways on how to protect them from such difficult situation. Here are some tips on how to help your teens heal a broken heart.
* Keep him company.
Teenage life is the most difficult life stages of a person. This is the time in which your teen needs your valuable time. Having a broken heart will make a person feel inferior and insecure. Keeping him company always will eliminate the possible feeling of being alone and outcast. He will be assured of having someone on his side ready to listen to all his heartaches.
* Invite him to engage on enjoyable activities.
Asking your teen to do some activities like sports, going to gym, mountain climbing, scrap booking, photography, gardening and other enjoyable tricks will make his time occupied. And being busy will keep him away from reminiscing sad moments of his break up. It will also help him enhance his skills and discover new opportunities.
* Talk to him positively.
Give him encouraging words that will make him see the bright side of life. Let him know that what he is experiencing is just a part of growing up and it will soon be vanished. Try to give him insights that will make him see other opportunities that are more favorable.
* Share with him your experiences.
Sometimes sharing our very own experiences will help because teens mostly look up to his parents and believe to whatever words they say. Sharing your own victory of recovering from heartbreak will motivate him to do better.
* Show your sympathy.
Make him know that you fully understand what he is undergoing. It is good to sympathize with his feelings but avoid making him feel some self pity. Help him by eliminating all possible things that can make him remember his painful memories like pictures of his ex, love songs and movies. Instead, try to make your home more lively and enjoyable place to live in.
* Encourage him to develop himself.
Give him advices that will emphasize more on his good points. Encourage him to improve himself physically, mentally and emotionally for it can help him boost his self confidence.
* Teach him how to pray.
Make your teen realize that what he is experiencing is just one of those trials from God. That he should learn to always ask guidance from Him for He is the only means of his strength and courage that will help him make his life move on.
* Keep him company.
Teenage life is the most difficult life stages of a person. This is the time in which your teen needs your valuable time. Having a broken heart will make a person feel inferior and insecure. Keeping him company always will eliminate the possible feeling of being alone and outcast. He will be assured of having someone on his side ready to listen to all his heartaches.
* Invite him to engage on enjoyable activities.
Asking your teen to do some activities like sports, going to gym, mountain climbing, scrap booking, photography, gardening and other enjoyable tricks will make his time occupied. And being busy will keep him away from reminiscing sad moments of his break up. It will also help him enhance his skills and discover new opportunities.
* Talk to him positively.
Give him encouraging words that will make him see the bright side of life. Let him know that what he is experiencing is just a part of growing up and it will soon be vanished. Try to give him insights that will make him see other opportunities that are more favorable.
* Share with him your experiences.
Sometimes sharing our very own experiences will help because teens mostly look up to his parents and believe to whatever words they say. Sharing your own victory of recovering from heartbreak will motivate him to do better.
* Show your sympathy.
Make him know that you fully understand what he is undergoing. It is good to sympathize with his feelings but avoid making him feel some self pity. Help him by eliminating all possible things that can make him remember his painful memories like pictures of his ex, love songs and movies. Instead, try to make your home more lively and enjoyable place to live in.
* Encourage him to develop himself.
Give him advices that will emphasize more on his good points. Encourage him to improve himself physically, mentally and emotionally for it can help him boost his self confidence.
* Teach him how to pray.
Make your teen realize that what he is experiencing is just one of those trials from God. That he should learn to always ask guidance from Him for He is the only means of his strength and courage that will help him make his life move on.
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Does your child need birthday parties to feel he/she is important?
Birthdays in the eyes of a child should be happy. That's why we always greet "happy birthday". The concept of happiness for a child is something enjoyable with full of fun, laughter and surprises just like a party. A birthday party doesn't only make the child truly happy but it will also give him a certain feeling of importance.
A person's birthday is worth celebrating because it is another milestone in his life. Having an added year in your lifespan is a blessing from God. Celebration is our way of thanksgiving that the person has surpassed another year and that we are thankful for his existence in this world.
Celebrating a child's birthday doesn't need much extravagance. A family can celebrate a birthday party by simple dinner or with a simple preparation of snacks plus candies and few balloons. I remember celebrating my son's birthday when they were still little boys with a simple party in our house. Preparing spaghetti, sandwiches and ice cream is enough plus few candies as giveaways. A simple cake with birthday candles and few pieces of balloon will complete the scenario. But now that they're grown-ups, they never ask for parties. Only birthday gift is what they are expecting from me.
As we grow up, our concept of celebrating birthdays will differ. Others will start to dislike party celebration, instead they prefer other means of commemorating their birthdays like going out with friends, watching movies, go travel, have picnic and other enjoyable get-together.
When I was young, I never asked birthday party from my parents because I knew it will be an additional expense for their budget. We're all 8 siblings in the family and if my parents will give us all a birthday party, it is like having a monthly party celebration in our house. But even without a party, I knew my parents give importance to my birth date. A simple greeting, a hug, a kiss and a mass offer are enough for me to know that I am important in their life.
It was only when I turned 18 that my mother insisted to give me a birthday party celebration. According to mom, 18th birthday marks the stage of welcoming me to the world of womanhood. It comes only once in my life so I must have a special memory for it. Unfortunately, a strong typhoon is bound to hit our place on my birthday but in spite of the heavy rain and strong winds, my 18th birthday celebration still pushed through with only candles as our lights and sound of wind as our music. It may not be a joyous party but the fact that my close friends came and my whole family supported me all the way, it is like as if I received millions of diamonds as birthday present. I was so overwhelmed not of the love and support coming from my family and friends. And it truly left me an unforgettable memory in my life
A person's birthday is worth celebrating because it is another milestone in his life. Having an added year in your lifespan is a blessing from God. Celebration is our way of thanksgiving that the person has surpassed another year and that we are thankful for his existence in this world.
Celebrating a child's birthday doesn't need much extravagance. A family can celebrate a birthday party by simple dinner or with a simple preparation of snacks plus candies and few balloons. I remember celebrating my son's birthday when they were still little boys with a simple party in our house. Preparing spaghetti, sandwiches and ice cream is enough plus few candies as giveaways. A simple cake with birthday candles and few pieces of balloon will complete the scenario. But now that they're grown-ups, they never ask for parties. Only birthday gift is what they are expecting from me.
As we grow up, our concept of celebrating birthdays will differ. Others will start to dislike party celebration, instead they prefer other means of commemorating their birthdays like going out with friends, watching movies, go travel, have picnic and other enjoyable get-together.
When I was young, I never asked birthday party from my parents because I knew it will be an additional expense for their budget. We're all 8 siblings in the family and if my parents will give us all a birthday party, it is like having a monthly party celebration in our house. But even without a party, I knew my parents give importance to my birth date. A simple greeting, a hug, a kiss and a mass offer are enough for me to know that I am important in their life.
It was only when I turned 18 that my mother insisted to give me a birthday party celebration. According to mom, 18th birthday marks the stage of welcoming me to the world of womanhood. It comes only once in my life so I must have a special memory for it. Unfortunately, a strong typhoon is bound to hit our place on my birthday but in spite of the heavy rain and strong winds, my 18th birthday celebration still pushed through with only candles as our lights and sound of wind as our music. It may not be a joyous party but the fact that my close friends came and my whole family supported me all the way, it is like as if I received millions of diamonds as birthday present. I was so overwhelmed not of the love and support coming from my family and friends. And it truly left me an unforgettable memory in my life
Is it better for children to be raised by stay-at-home parents?
Each person passes through the stages of life. Infancy and childhood stages are the life stages that require full guidance from parents. It is mainly because they still don't have steady state of mind and lack capacity to decide on their own due to lack of experience.
As a child grows, he is being influenced not only of the people he frequently deals with but also of his environment. Whatever he sees or hear can be fully absorbed by his young mind. It is better therefore that parents or even only one of the parents particularly the mother to fully monitor the everyday activities of her child. For a child who was raised by stay-at-home parents are more guided and less chances to do wrong. Advantages of having stay-at-home parents in the eyes of a child are as follows:
1. On cases of problems, children can easily ask help from parents as well as parents can easily determine if their children are faced with troubles. The earlier a problem is determined, the earlier it will be solved thereby minimize child stress. With parents always around you, children will never feel being left out or taken for granted.
2. Proper nutrition will be well maintained and the risk of illness will be minimized. Parents know what is best for their kids and only offers the best healthy foods ever. First signs of illnesses or sickness can be monitored and immediate remedy can be applied.
3. A child is well secured if parents are always besides them. The danger of accidents can be minimized. I remember the time when my sons were barely two to three years old. Due to my busy work, I can't fully take care of my children and it is my greatest regrets because they are always being hospitalized not only due to sickness but also due to accidents. Although I have hired a baby sitter to look after them, there is still no better thing as being taken care by your own mother. Baby sitter sometimes lack concern and patience to fully understand what the child needs. Unlike a mother who is willing to sacrifice all for the love and concern for her children.
4. Learning is much easier for children being guided by parents. Aside from patience and understanding that parents can give, a child will be motivated more if he feels the love and support of his parents. Simple appreciation from parents means a lot to a child.
5. Parents who fully guided their children until they grow up usually received much respect and love from their children. It is just like the golden rule, that what you did to your children will also be done to you when you grow old. If you showed one hundred percent love and care to your children while they are young, for sure, you will also receive same love and respect from them when you grow old.
As a child grows, he is being influenced not only of the people he frequently deals with but also of his environment. Whatever he sees or hear can be fully absorbed by his young mind. It is better therefore that parents or even only one of the parents particularly the mother to fully monitor the everyday activities of her child. For a child who was raised by stay-at-home parents are more guided and less chances to do wrong. Advantages of having stay-at-home parents in the eyes of a child are as follows:
1. On cases of problems, children can easily ask help from parents as well as parents can easily determine if their children are faced with troubles. The earlier a problem is determined, the earlier it will be solved thereby minimize child stress. With parents always around you, children will never feel being left out or taken for granted.
2. Proper nutrition will be well maintained and the risk of illness will be minimized. Parents know what is best for their kids and only offers the best healthy foods ever. First signs of illnesses or sickness can be monitored and immediate remedy can be applied.
3. A child is well secured if parents are always besides them. The danger of accidents can be minimized. I remember the time when my sons were barely two to three years old. Due to my busy work, I can't fully take care of my children and it is my greatest regrets because they are always being hospitalized not only due to sickness but also due to accidents. Although I have hired a baby sitter to look after them, there is still no better thing as being taken care by your own mother. Baby sitter sometimes lack concern and patience to fully understand what the child needs. Unlike a mother who is willing to sacrifice all for the love and concern for her children.
4. Learning is much easier for children being guided by parents. Aside from patience and understanding that parents can give, a child will be motivated more if he feels the love and support of his parents. Simple appreciation from parents means a lot to a child.
5. Parents who fully guided their children until they grow up usually received much respect and love from their children. It is just like the golden rule, that what you did to your children will also be done to you when you grow old. If you showed one hundred percent love and care to your children while they are young, for sure, you will also receive same love and respect from them when you grow old.
How sibling rivalry affects family relationships?
Sibling rivalry is one crucial thing that should be given immediate attention by parents. Even if we come from same father and mother, each person is still born unique in many ways. Genes that is contained in our body surely comes from our biological parents but it is not an assurance that all siblings within the family will have similar behavior and characteristics.
Rivalry between siblings can be caused by different factors such as differences in physical appearance, style, talents, individual capacity and many more. But the most root of sibling rivalry starts from uneven parent's attention or the so-called "favoritism" within the family. Parents are directly liable for the occurrence of sibling rivalry within their children. And it is also parents who can eliminate such crucial problem because if this rivalry between siblings can't be controlled, there is a big possibility that it will affect family relationships.
I came from a family of eight siblings. Normally, since we are eight, my mother can't attend to all our needs simultaneously. Mostly, younger ones were given much priority and unnoticeably cause jealousy among us children. When I was still young, I truly can't fully understand why my mom needs to be over protective of my youngest sister. It came to the point I started be jealous of the special attention given to her by my mom. It made me don't want to let her play with my toys. I became selfish and rebellious because I want my mom to treat us fairly. It is only now that I grew up and began to realize that there's nothing to be jealous about. We don't need to compete each other just to get my mom's attention because she loves us both.
Although I overcome that so-called sibling rivalry, it still resulted to the fact that I am closer to my dad than my mom and that I am more at ease with my brothers than with my younger sister.
But not all people can fully overcome such sibling rivalry. Others can bring this until they grew up just like what happened to my eldest sister. We never had any idea that she is suffering from sibling rivalry syndrome. She never stop from studying which we thought at first is a good thing for her personal development. We never knew that she has other purpose. But it is only when my dad is gone that she started acting differently towards us. She hated the idea that we are more successful in career than she does. She started blaming our mom for having favoritism. It even came to the point that we can no longer control the conflict that resulted to break-off of her family relation to us.
Sibling rivalry is a common scenario to a family particularly big one. Cain and Abel from the Bible started it and gave them a tragic end. If this is not remedied, it can create harmful impact thereby can minimize closeness between siblings, can create unhealthy competition, can cause a serious fight and ill-feelings, and can be passed on negatively to the next generation.
Rivalry between siblings can be caused by different factors such as differences in physical appearance, style, talents, individual capacity and many more. But the most root of sibling rivalry starts from uneven parent's attention or the so-called "favoritism" within the family. Parents are directly liable for the occurrence of sibling rivalry within their children. And it is also parents who can eliminate such crucial problem because if this rivalry between siblings can't be controlled, there is a big possibility that it will affect family relationships.
I came from a family of eight siblings. Normally, since we are eight, my mother can't attend to all our needs simultaneously. Mostly, younger ones were given much priority and unnoticeably cause jealousy among us children. When I was still young, I truly can't fully understand why my mom needs to be over protective of my youngest sister. It came to the point I started be jealous of the special attention given to her by my mom. It made me don't want to let her play with my toys. I became selfish and rebellious because I want my mom to treat us fairly. It is only now that I grew up and began to realize that there's nothing to be jealous about. We don't need to compete each other just to get my mom's attention because she loves us both.
Although I overcome that so-called sibling rivalry, it still resulted to the fact that I am closer to my dad than my mom and that I am more at ease with my brothers than with my younger sister.
But not all people can fully overcome such sibling rivalry. Others can bring this until they grew up just like what happened to my eldest sister. We never had any idea that she is suffering from sibling rivalry syndrome. She never stop from studying which we thought at first is a good thing for her personal development. We never knew that she has other purpose. But it is only when my dad is gone that she started acting differently towards us. She hated the idea that we are more successful in career than she does. She started blaming our mom for having favoritism. It even came to the point that we can no longer control the conflict that resulted to break-off of her family relation to us.
Sibling rivalry is a common scenario to a family particularly big one. Cain and Abel from the Bible started it and gave them a tragic end. If this is not remedied, it can create harmful impact thereby can minimize closeness between siblings, can create unhealthy competition, can cause a serious fight and ill-feelings, and can be passed on negatively to the next generation.
Travel safety tips for families
It is such a wonderful feeling to travel with the whole family. And in order to make it a real pleasurable trip, here are some travel safety tips to remember:
First, make a headcount on family members to assure that nobody is left behind. I remember the movie, "Home Alone", when one member of the family was left behind. Instead of having a pleasure trip for the family, it became a worry-stressful trip for all…READ MORE AT http://www.helium.com/items/1212568
First, make a headcount on family members to assure that nobody is left behind. I remember the movie, "Home Alone", when one member of the family was left behind. Instead of having a pleasure trip for the family, it became a worry-stressful trip for all…READ MORE AT http://www.helium.com/items/1212568
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